‘I’m Surprised That So Many Guys Want You’: The Plus Size Single Girl Reveals Her Lovers Advice Her To ‘Lock The Guy Quick’ Because They Are Shocked She Gets So Many Dates And Thinks She’s ‘Lucky’ If A Guy Wants Her
- Mary Rose Madigan has spoken candidly about dating as a plus size woman
- A writer based in Australia, said people called her “lucky” to get matches
- Women’s claims “raised” their confidence because of their own standards
A woman has revealed the hardest part of dating while plus size is the expectation of those closest to her that her options will be limited by her weight and therefore have to settle down.
Marie-Rose Madigan, who lives in Sydney, explained that there is a stigma surrounding plus-size women and dating, with people assuming they have a harder time finding a match than skinny women.
However, she said that she has never had any trouble finding a man, and that her only problem is the assumptions and expectations of others.
She said while discussing dating at her workplace a few years ago, it was never asked why guys were so interested in skinny girls but her co-workers were making comments about her size.
The Mamamia writer claimed that some women have raised their confidence, saying, ‘I know it’s a tired metaphor but confidence is sexy, being yourself is always attractive and having a date has nothing to do with your weight. I am alive, complete guide.
Mary Rose Madigan (pictured), who lives in Australia, told Mamamiya about the stigma she experienced from other women while dating because of her size.
Mary (pictured) said women who have worked hard to achieve traditional beauty standards are understandably frustrated when those who don’t get along receive the same attention
Marie explained that she has received the same amount of matches on dating apps as her skinny boyfriends, and is actively pursued for more than just casual sex or late-night texting.
When she found herself in a love triangle, co-workers and even a family member commented that they were surprised she received “so much attention” for her size.
She said that friends were also shocked that she was able to date attractive men, with some saying that she should ‘lock up the guy quickly’ because she was lucky to have a guy who wanted her.
The writer admitted that comments from other women about her worth during the time she spent dating seemed “endless” due to the expectation that plus-size people should feel ashamed.
You must be quiet, meek, and lacking in confidence, said Mary, and if you allow yourself to live like an ordinary woman, it makes others uncomfortable.
Mary (pictured) said she has received comments from co-workers, friends and family members who were surprised at the number of men she attracted
“If you’re not constantly making self-deprecating jokes, constantly gossiping about the diet you’re trying, or how you wish guys would notice, you’re not playing along.”
Mary claims that although patriarchy creates “unrealistic beauty standards,” women are the best at supporting them.
She said it’s understandable for women who have worked hard to achieve traditional standards of attractiveness to feel frustrated when they see women who don’t get along and achieve the same results in dating.
After reflecting on her own experience, Marie revealed that she’s learned that comments made about her say more about women who have spent years dieting and never quite hit the impossible, than really talking about it.
She added that it’s not her job to change so that women who aren’t comfortable with her self-confidence aren’t motivated.
Marie (pictured) said that comments other women make about her size say more about her than they do