Jill Duggar has described her father, Jim Bob Duggar, as ‘controlling,’ ‘reactionary,’ and ‘verbally abusive’ and said that their relationship is ‘pretty toxic.’
Jill, the fourth-oldest of 19 siblings, made the negative assessment in court documents including a deposition that were obtained by The Sun this week.
The 30-year-old revealed that ‘issues’ with her family sent her to counseling, and she has had limited contact with him for years.
‘I saw a whole new side to my dad once my husband and I started making decisions that were best for our family, but not in his best interest,’ she said during a Preliminary Psychological Opinion by Robert Wynne.
‘Sadly, I realized he had become pretty controlling, fearful, and reactionary. He was verbally abusive. Our relationship is not good. It got pretty toxic.’
Jill Duggar (pictured with husband Derick) has described her father, Jim Bob Duggar, as ‘controlling,’ ‘reactionary,’ and ‘verbally abusive’ and said that their relationship is ‘pretty toxic’
Jill, the fourth-oldest of 19 siblings, made the negative assessment about her dad (pictured) in court documents including a deposition that were obtained by The Sun this week
The new court documents stem from a 2017 lawsuit that Jill and her sisters Jessa, Jinger, and Joy Anna filed against the City of Springdale, Arkansas and the local police department for invasion of privacy for releasing a decade-old police report detailing how their older brother Josh had sexually abused them as children.
The sisters sued for ’emotional distress’ for the release of the report, which was obtained by InTouch magazine in 2015 via a Freedom of Information Act request.
The case was dismissed by a federal judge this February, and the court documents have since been unsealed.
While the documents focus on the release of the police report detailing Josh’s abuse of his sisters, they also offer details about Jill’s relationship with her parents, because the defendants claimed that the sisters’ ‘allegation of emotional distress opens the door to inquiries into their lives, including their relationship with the parents.’
The documents state that Jill is the only member of her family to have had ‘any type of therapy or counseling’ after the police reports were released.
Jill also got couple’s counseling with her husband, Derick Dillard, due to ‘issues’ with her family,’ saying there was a ‘lack of boundaries.’
‘We occasionally text on a family group thread, but I don’t feel comfortable being around him and just hanging out. It isn’t good for my mental health right now,’ Jill said
Jim Bob continued to support and have a close relationship with Jill’s abuser, Josh, who is now in prison after being found guilty of receiving and possessing child porn
Speculation of a rift between Jill and her father began to swirl in 2018 when Derick first started to speak out against the family’s TLC show.
Since then, she has spoken more candidly about her strained relationship with her dad, revealing in October 2020 that she was ‘not on the best terms’ with her parents.
She also admitted in March 2021 that she hadn’t been to her parents’ house in ‘a couple of years.’
‘We occasionally text on a family group thread, but I don’t feel comfortable being around him and just hanging out. It isn’t good for my mental health right now,’ she said during a Preliminary Psychological Opinion by Robert Wynne.
The documents said that Jill and Derick ‘were asked to not to come over to the Duggars’ house without permission from her father,’ something Derick had admitted publicly in 2019.
They also said that her father ‘did not approve of her having a nose ring, drinking alcohol, or wearing pants.’
Jill got couple’s counseling with her husband, Derick Dillard, due to ‘issues’ with her family,’ saying there was a ‘lack of boundaries’
Despite all of that, Jill said she ‘longs’ to have a relationship with her father again.
‘My husband and I have had to create some pretty strict boundaries right now to protect our sanity,’ she said.
‘We pretty much only see him right now at weddings and funerals. I think sometimes he wishes we would just “get over it” and go back to how things used to be… doing things his way.’
Jill said her mother, Michelle, is ‘hurting’ and wishes Jim Bob would ‘shut his mouth sometimes’ — and while she sees her more often than she sees Jim Bob, it’s ‘triggering’ and ‘awkward.’
But while Jill is working on healing through therapy, she said in a September 2021 deposition that her parents never went to therapy with her.
Derick also added in his own May 2021 deposition that Jill doesn’t see her siblings ‘at all,’ though she is not estranged from them.
‘We pretty much only see him right now at weddings and funerals. I think sometimes he wishes we would just “get over it” and go back to how things used to be, doing things his way,’ she said
Jill has been absent from her family’s Christmas celebrations for years, but has attended weddings
Addressing the release of the police report about Josh’s sexual abuse, Jill said her counselor said she suffered from ‘trauma’ and ‘revictimization’ when it became public and felt ‘feels emotionally overwhelmed and prone to tears.’
Jill said the ‘trauma’ was ‘hitting [her] again’ and it was ‘harder than expected.’
The former Counting On star has spoken out about her strained relationship with her father in recent years, while her husband has also shed light on the rift.
After Christmas in 2019, Derick replied to a question from an Instagram commenter who asked whether they ever spend time with Jill’s family.
‘Yes, but it’s just harder now because we’re not allowed at the house when JB isn’t there,’ he said.
‘Jill even had to ask JB permission to go over to the house to help her sister when she was in labor because her sister wanted her help, but Jill couldn’t provide the assistance until we got it cleared with JB.’
Derick was referring to Jill’s sister Jessa, who gave birth to daughter Ivy Jane in May of that year. Jill, a midwife, helped with the delivery.
Jill has previously opened up about her strained relationship with her father, revealing last year that she hadn’t been to her parents’ house in a ‘couple of years’
Prior to that, her husband said they were not allowed at the house when Jim Bob wasn’t there, and Jill needed permission from him to assist in her sister Jessa’s birth of daughter Ivy
Derick said that Jill’s father Jim Bob ‘will attack the victims’ of sex pest Josh ‘if they threaten his show’ – which has since been canceled
Derick — who recently graduated law school and passed the bar exam — also appeared to accuse for TLC and Jim Bob of pressuring Jill to be on TV when she didn’t want to be.
‘We were pressured to think that we were required to [be on the show] and that we would get sued if we didn’t.
‘It’s not going to look good for TLC when it’s exposed that they pressured an abuse victim to continue filming when we tried to quit, just so they could continue with Jill & Jessa: Counting On after 19K&C.’
Derick also doubled down on his previous claim that only Jim Bob ever had a contract with TLC — and only he received any payment.
‘All of the shows have been under his contract, and he is the only one with a contract,’ he said.
Months later, he was back on Instagram sharing more critical remarks about Jim Bob.
Prior to Counting On’s cancellation, Derick said the show was ‘still under his control’ and ‘he will attack the victims if they threaten his show.’
Jim Bob is pictured smiling at his son Josh’s child porn trial last year. During the trial, he also made an unsuccessful run for office
Jill and her husband are expecting baby number three later this year
‘We were humiliated and threatened when we first tried to not film,’ he added. ‘Now it’s not dependent on us anymore to keep the show going because more kids got married, so it’s more OK if we quit.’
‘We have to break this culture, that cares more about money and ratings than protecting the most vulnerable,’ he added.
‘Jeff Epstein already showed us that if you have enough money, power, and influence, you can get away with anything. Sadly, it doesn’t stop with him. There are many more stories in this world that are not too different, existing in a culture where it can still thrive.
‘Money/ratings trump political correctness, which trumps losing money. Also show in this diagram: money/ratings > political correctness . losing money.’
When a commenter responded asking where ‘being Jesus followers or good parents land on that diagram,’ Derick said: ‘Not very high, apparently.’
Jill admitted in a YouTube Q&A that her family is ‘not always’ supportive of what she does
‘[We’re] doing what’s best for our family right now and just working through it, I guess,’ Jill said (pictured with parents Jim Bob and Michelle)
Later in 2020, Jill admitted in a YouTube Q&A that her family is ‘not always’ supportive of what she does, but while she wants to have ‘deference’ toward them, she refuses to be ‘led by fear” and ‘controlled by what somebody else is gonna think.’
‘Are they supportive? Not always,’ she admitted. ‘Everyone’s gonna have their opinion about different things. Some of my siblings are probably more likely to have something to say about it than others. Some are more like, “Hey, I’m happy for whatever y’all are deciding.”
‘Not all of them are cool with it but some of them are more cool with it than others,’ she added.
Some of those choices that Jill has made are getting a nose ring, wearing shorts, drinking alcohol, using birth control, and sending her son Israel to public school.
Toward the end of 2020, Jill told People that her and Derick’s choice to leave the show ‘didn’t go over very well with anyone,’ but she ‘never expected’ it to ‘get to this point.’
In response, her parents, Jim Bob and Michelle, released their first-ever statement on the falling out, referring to ‘differences’ but promising that they love Jill, her husband Derick, and their kids, and that their ‘prayer’ is that the relationship is ‘fully restored quickly.’